Родители и взрослые дети. Как разрешить конфликты и восстановить отношения

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Joshua Coleman, Philip Cowan, and Carolyn Pape Cowan, “The Cost of Blaming Parents,” Greater Good magazine, Berkeley, California, 2014; Kristina M. Scharp, Lindsey J. Thomas, and Christina G. Paxman, “ ‘It Was the Straw That Broke the Camel’s Back’: Exploring the Distancing Processes Communicatively Constructed in Parent-Child Estrangement Backstories,” Journal of Family Communication 15, no. 4 (2015): 330–48.

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Debra Umberson, “Relationships Between Adult Children and Their Parents: Psychological Consequences for Both Generations,” Journal of Marriage and Family 54 (1992): 664–74.

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Anne-Marie Slaughter, “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All,” https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/07/why-women-still-cant-have-it-all /309020/; Joshua Coleman, The Lazy Husband: How to Get Men to Do More Parenting and Housework (New York: St. Martin’s Press, 2007).

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Selma Fraiberg et al.

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Philip Cowan, при личном общении. См. также: Joshua Coleman, Philip Cowan, and Carolyn Pape Cowan, “The Cost of Blaming Parents,” Greater Good magazine, Berkeley, California, 2014.

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Russell Banks, Affliction (New York: HarperPerennial, 2004).

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Перевод на русский язык книги «Ученица» вышел в издательстве «Бомбора» в 2018 г.

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Tara Westover, Educated: A Memoir (New York: Random House, 2018).

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Исследователи Люси Блейк и Бекка Бланд обнаружили, что большинство отчуждений было инициировано взрослым ребенком, а не его родителем. Lucy Blake and Becca Bland, University of Cambridge Centre for Family Research and Stand Alone, December 2015. Их выводы отражают результаты моей практики и проведенного мною опроса 1600 отчужденных родителей.

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Joshua Coleman, The Marriage Makeover: Finding Happiness in Imperfect Harmony (New York: St. Martin’s Press, 2000); Pamela Webster and A. Regula Herzog, “Effects of Parental Divorce and Memories of Family Problems on Relationships Between Adult Children and Their Parents,” The Journals of Gerontology Series B, vol. 50B, no. 1 (January 1995): S24–S34.